By Ed Frauenheim, 29 September 2004 08:45
NEWS
Can we talk about talking on cellphones?
The matter has been simmering for years as wireless gabbing takes place in more and more settings. For one woman in the Washington, D.C., area, it came to a head recently when she was arrested, reportedly for speaking too loudly near a bus stop.
According to a story in Tuesday's Washington Post, a transit police officer thought that the woman was disturbing the peace by speaking loudly into her phone and eventually wrestled her to the ground. Police said the woman was cursing into her phone, but she said she cursed after she'd been grabbed, according to the newspaper.
Peter Post, great grandson of etiquette maven Emily Post and director of the Emily Post Institute, said the mobile phone has warped people's sense of politeness. When the little brick rings, he argues, people lose sight of how they might be bothering others.
"It's gotten us into this craze that we've got to do this now," he said. "Things can wait five minutes."
Post said that the problem isn't so much how loud people are, but rather people talking on cellphones in public settings about inappropriate topics, such as the qualifications of a job candidate or details of their hysterectomies. He recalled an occasion when he was in an airport waiting room, where a woman carried on a heated argument with her husband, via cellphone, over his picking her up. The woman's call made everyone in the room uncomfortable, Post said.
And he said it doesn't work to simply disregard a rude mobile caller -- people are better at ignoring two-way conversations than monologues.
"It's much, much harder to tune out that one-sided conversation," Post said. "It's very hard not to listen."
There are nearly 170 million US wireless subscribers, according to the Cellular Telecommunications & Internet Association trade group. And it's hard to go anywhere without seeing -- and hearing -- people on their mobile phones, in stores, in restaurants and even on subway trains.
A survey published this summer by Sprint found that 80 percent of US adults reported they felt people were less courteous when using a wireless phone today than five years ago.
Interestingly, people tend to see themselves as virtuous when it comes to that phone in their pocket or pocketbook. Ninety-seven percent of those surveyed classified themselves as "very courteous" or "somewhat courteous" in their use of a wireless phone.
Some companies in the wireless industry, including Sprint, have tried to advise consumers on how to mind their mobile manners. LetsTalk, which reviews cellphones and service plans, recommends that "no citizen should take a call at a theatre or in the movies" and suggests that "when asked by an establishment or airline to refrain from using a cellphone, do so."
Post's advice for civil cellphone use boils down to paying more attention to one's social setting than to the little device that's begging to be answered.
"Be a master of your cellphone, not a slave," he said. "If people did that, all the other things would work themselves out."
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1. Richard
About time if you ask me...
Ironic, isn't it, how usage of these personal communications devices often ends up inflicting private conversations on the rest of the bus / train / waiting room etc etc.
They are supposed to make us more connected yet we use them to isolate ourselves from our immediate surrondings and alienate our immediate neighbours.
Make me mayor and I'll install little boths on street corners where mobile phone users have to go to make a call when in public. I'll call it a phone box.
Rabbit, anyone?
2. Roy Corneloues
Is it just me or is more of an issue in the US where, apparently, SMS passed these 170 million subscribers by?
Maybe I've been lucky, but I am witnessing more conversations these days by text rather than by voice.